How We Became Human...

"I found this and YES!! it is long but worth reading if your like me always wondering about things. I found this on CNN.com./ makes you think about things after reading this article, just clikc on all the links at the bottom of this page to read the rest of the story:

What Makes us Different? Not very much, when you look at our DNA. But those few tiny changes made all the difference in the world.

You don't have to be a biologist or an anthropologist to see how closely the great apes--gorillas, chimpanzees, bonobos and orangutans--resemble us. Even a child can see that their bodies are pretty much the same as ours, apart from some exaggerated proportions and extra body hair. Apes have dexterous hands much like ours but unlike those of any other creature. And, most striking of all, their faces are uncannily expressive, showing a range of emotions that are eerily familiar. That's why we delight in seeing chimps wearing tuxedos, playing the drums or riding bicycles. It's why a potbellied gorilla scratching itself in the zoo reminds us of Uncle Ralph or Cousin Vinnie--and why, in a more unsettled reaction, Queen Victoria, on seeing an orangutan named Jenny at the London Zoo in 1842, declared the beast "frightful and painfully and disagreeably human."
It isn't just a superficial resemblance. Chimps, especially, not only look like us, they also share with us some human-like behaviors. They make and use tools and teach those skills to their offspring. They prey on other animals and occasionally murder each other. They have complex social hierarchies and some aspects of what anthropologists consider culture. They can't form words, but they can learn to communicate via sign language and symbols and to perform complex cognitive tasks. Scientists figured out decades ago that chimps are our nearest evolutionary cousins, roughly 98% to 99% identical to humans at the genetic level. When it comes to DNA, a human is closer to a chimp than a mouse is to a rat.
Yet tiny differences, sprinkled throughout the genome, have made all the difference. Agriculture, language, art, music, technology and philosophy--all the achievements that make us profoundly different from chimpanzees and make a chimp in a business suit seem so deeply ridiculous--are somehow encoded within minute fractions of our genetic code. Nobody yet knows precisely where they are or how they work, but somewhere in the nuclei of our cells are handfuls of amino acids, arranged in a specific order, that endow us with the brainpower to outthink and outdo our closest relatives on the tree of life. They give us the ability to speak and write and read, to compose symphonies, paint masterpieces and delve into the molecular biology that makes us what we are.
Until recently, there was no way to unravel these crucial differences. Exactly what gives us advantages like complex brains and the ability to walk upright--and certain disadvantages, including susceptibility to a particular type of malaria, AIDS and Alzheimer's, that don't seem to afflict chimps--remained a mystery.
But that's rapidly changing. Just a year ago, geneticists announced that they had sequenced a rough draft of the chimpanzee genome, allowing the first side-by-side comparisons of human and chimpanzee DNA. Already, that research has led to important discoveries about the development of the human brain over the past few million years and possibly about our ancestors' mating behavior as well.
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Modern Philosophy, Hello It's Monday

"If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried.
A conclusion is the place where you got tired of thinking.
Experience is something you don't get until just after you need it.
For every action, there is an equal and opposite criticism.
He who hesitates is probably right.
Never do card tricks for the group you play poker with.
No one is listening until you make a mistake.
Success always occurs in private, and failure in full view.
The colder the X-ray table, the more of your body is required on it.
The hardness of the butter is proportional to the softness of the bread.
To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.
To succeed in politics, it is often necessary to rise above your principles.
Two wrongs are only the beginning.
You never really learn to swear until you learn to drive.

The corollary is: You never learn to pray until your kids (learn to drive!)
The problem with the gene pool is that there is no lifeguard.
Monday is an awful way to spend 1/7th of your life.
The sooner you fall behind, the more time you'll have to catch up. "

But what it Love ??

"Ask your friends to explain it to you. See whether they all portray it the same way. Will they describe it as a feeling? Or will they define it as deeply caring for others but leave you to figure out what "caring" means? How many will equate love with some form of sexual attraction?

It quickly becomes clear that the word love doesn't always mean the same thing. One person may say, "I love ice cream," simply meaning he enjoys it. Another will say, "Oh, I love your outfit," meaning she admiresor desires the clothing you are wearing.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could use a consistent definition of love, especially when we are speaking about the love and the love we should have for each other?

Sadly, such consistency is lacking in the world. Most people will acknowledge that love, or at least some degree of respect, is essential for personal relationships. A great deal of caution is in order as we consider the definitions of love. Some are so vague they excuse almost any type of behavior. At times, love is merely a code word to encourage the acceptance of unconventional, destructive patterns of conduct.

Many people embrace the idea of loving others as themselves but remain blissfully unaware of how it defines love. As a result, they do not understand the necessity of putting into practice that determine the success or failure of their relationships.

For love to be meaningful it must be accurately defined and understood.

God wants us all to live forever to attain eternal life. But first we must learn how to get along with each other, how to love one another. That is why love is so important.

Peace and harmony are impossible without respect and love. If God were to grant us eternal life without teaching us how to love each other, He would be committing us to live forever in confusion and chaos.

So we come again to the question: What is love? How do you know when its real or here to stay?

And if you Love someone and you're no longer a couple When do you stop loving only them or do you never stop, if it's real true Love. Also if you lose this one true Love, was it really Love ? Do you get a chance with someone else, to find the love you want ?"

Dating Guide To Relationships

First Impressions;"You just met someone for the first time. How fast can you decide what role he or she plays in your future? For most people, all it takes is 10 minutes, according to a new study.

Sunnafrank of the University of Minnesota and Ramirez Jr. of Ohio State University surveyed 164 male and females and found that first impressions, even snap judgments, had a profound influence on the development of future relationships.

Sunnafrank and Ramirez's findings are in stark contrast to previous research that demonstrated that it takes days, even weeks, to determine how a relationship will develop.

"We're finding that it all happens much sooner than that -- it's literally within just minutes," Ramirez says in a news release.

The findings are published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.

For the study, each person was paired up with another differant-sex person whom they had never met. They the pairs introduced themselves and talked for three, six, or 10 minutes. Afterward, the study participants were asked to predict whether or not they would have a positive future relationship with the person they just met and to classify them in one of the following categories: nodding acquaintance, casual acquaintance, acquaintance, close acquaintance, friend, and close friend.

Nine weeks later, each person was again surveyed to determine what type of relationship had occurred. Those who initially gave their partner a high positive rating tended to contact this other person and talk to them more. After follow-up, a closer friendship had developed.

The amount of time each person spent talking to each other initially had no effect on the outcome.

Ramirez says how relationships are forged is almost a self-fulfilling prophecy."

60-things a man should never do after he hits 30'

"Okay ladies I had to post this made me chuckle, pass it on to those men you know that fit this profile!!

1. Coin his own nickname.
2. Use a wallet that is fastened with Velcro.
3. Rank his friends in order of best, second best, and so on.

4. Hacky sack.
5. Name his "private part" his name plus junior.
6. Hang art with tape.
7. Hang The Scream, unless he stole it from the Munch museum in Oslo.
8. Ask a policeman, "You ever shoot anybody with that thing?"
9. Ask a woman, "Hey, you got a license for that ass?"
10. Skip.
11. Take a camera to a nude beach.
12. Let his father do his taxes.
13. Tap on the glass.
14. Shout out a response to "Are you ready to rock?"

15. Use the word collated on his resume.
16. Hold a weekly house meeting with roommates.
17. Name pets after Middle Earth characters.
18. Jokingly flash gang signs while posing for wedding photos.
19. Give shout-outs.
20. Use numbers in place of words or locations, such as "the 411" for information, or "the 313" for Detroit.
21. Hug amusement-park characters.
22. Wear Disney-themed neckties.
23. Date or move in with a women just because you don't want to be alone.
24. Compare the trajectory of his life with those of the characters in Billy Joel's "Scenes from an Italian Restaurant."
25. Request extra sprinkles.
26. Air drum.

27. Choose 69 as his jersey number.
28. Eat Oreo cookies in stages.
29. Volunteer to be a magician's assistant.
30. Sleep on a bare mattress.
31. End a conversation with "later skater."
32. Hold his lighter up at a concert.
33. Publicly greet friends by shouting, "What's up, you whore?"
34. Wear Converse All Stars with a tuxedo.
35. Propose via stadium Jumbotron.
36. Decide anything based on the ruminations of Howard Stern.
37. Call "shotgun" before getting in a car.
38. Dispute someone else's call of "shotgun."
39. Whine.

40. Mist up during Aerosmith's "Dream On."
41. Purchase fireworks.
42. Google the word vagina.
43. Ride a pony.
44. Sport an ironic mustache.
45. Hit 13 against a 6.
46. Organize a party bus.
47. Say "two points" every time he throws something in the trash.
48. Buy a novelty postcard in another country of topless women on a beach and write, "Wish you were here" on it.
49. Keg stands.
50. Purchase home-brewing paraphernalia.
51. The John Travolta point-to-the-ceiling-point-to-the-floor dance move; also that one from Pulp Fiction.
52. Put less than ten dollars' worth of gas in the tank.
53. Keep a minuscule amount of marijuana extremely well hidden.
54. Read The Fountainhead.
55. Watch the Pink Floyd laser light show at a planetarium.
56. Refer to his girlfriend's breasts as "the twins."
57. Own a vanity plate.
58. Whippits.
59. Say goodbye to anyone by tapping his chest and even so much as whispering, "Peace out."

60. Last but least, tell a women he loves her while in bed or if he is trying to get her in bed for sex "if he don't really mean it!!"
Things A Man Should Never Do Past The Age of One
Buy Jasper Jacobs, age 17 month, Get circumcised, Spend more than ten minutes looking at a checkerboard pattern (exception: peyote & potheads)Look longingly at his mother's breasts(or any women's breast when hungry), Urinate in his mouth(or anyone else's),Be terrified of Mr. Noodle on Elmo's World, Cry at the sight of a wooden spoon, Eat pureed Wheat Thins, Suck on the corner of a laptop, Go willingly into the arms of strangers, Lose neck control, Have a favorite Higglytown Hero, "Make nice.",Wear a unitard, Read The Fountainhead."

Snakes on my head! In the grass! In my home

msnbc.msn.com:" Idaho couple’s fixer-upper turns out to be crawling with serpents : Wilford, Idaho - The Hepworths knew the house would require some maintenance. But they never thought they'd need a snake charmer.Shortly after Lyman and Jeanine Hepworth began working on a rundown property outside of town, they experienced a trauma more fit for Samuel L. Jackson's character in "Snakes on a Plane" than a pair of eastern Idaho do-it-yourselfers. Snakes, perhaps thousands of them, fell on Lyman Hepworth's head when he opened the door to a pump house near the small house the couple planned to buy. When it warmed up, we walked onto the yard and the whole yard moved," Jeanine Hepworth told the Rexburg Standard Journal, In Rexburg Idaho.
One day, Lyman Hepworth reached to turn on a light and discovered the pull cord was actually a snake. Last March, the Hepworths were having money troubles. Struggling to pay off their medical bills and make house payments, they sold their old home. They planned to buy a home and a couple of outbuildings from an acquaintance on a few acres outside tiny Wilford. Then they found the snakes — in the lawn, in the living room and in their hair.
Winter sanctuary: Turns out the property was a winter snake sanctuary, likely a snake den or hibernaculum where snakes gather in large numbers to hibernate for the winter, said Lauri Hanauska-Brown, a biologist with the Idaho Department of Fish and Game.
In the spring and summer: the snakes fan out across the wilds of eastern Idaho, but as the days get shorter and cooler, the snakes return to the resting place — in this case, the Hepworth's new home — where they ball up for heat. The snakes are likely a terrestrial garter snake, Hanauska-Brown said. Reptiles are a protected species meaning the Hepworths cannot bait them or kill them, she said.
The couple has not contacted Fish and Game to move the garters, Hanauska-Brown said. The department would attempt to move the snakes, but it could be difficult because if they move them too far they would die and if they move them close by the snakes would likely return to hibernate, she said.
‘That sounds kind of Indiana Jonesish’"They are used to going there and kind of balling up," Hanauska-Brown told The Associated Press. "That sounds kind of Indiana Jonesish. But this is a natural thing."
The Hepworths never moved in, but Lyman Hepworth's brother is still making payments, though the seller offered to refund their money when he found out about the infestation.
Their plan: They sent a videotape of the house, their children and, of course, the snakes to the producers of "Extreme Home Makeover," in hopes the television show would send its decorators in for a filmed renovation.
The video showed snakes slithering on the back porch, climbing up the foundation and a ball of snakes on the side of the home, Jeanine Hepworth said.
The couple will not find out if the show chooses their reptile refuge for a fix-up challenge until next year.
Meanwhile, summer has turned to fall. And the snakes that have been out for the summer are making their way back to Hepworth's little home in Wilford."

Advice & Rules About Love

"PERSONALLY I THINK THIS COULD WORK FOR BOTH WOMEN OR MEN IF A MAN IS WONDERING IF HE IS WITH THE WRONG WOMEN...JUST AS IT HELPS WOMEN I THINK LOVE RULES GO BOTH WAYS!!

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men And What To Do About It...Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of They're Dreams. And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them...

MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”

Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently? Of course you do. And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well. Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings. What's going on here It's actually very simple. Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day. Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well Sometimes for months or years...But why in the world would a woman do that!? Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection". Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys. Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, and all the women I knew they did too...all the while hoping that this person they cared about would somehow change. The potential for something better and the potential to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...But deep down women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking. They believed that they could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy. Talk about a losing battle. It doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.

MISTAKE #2: Assuming You“Get” Men & Their Psychology Men are different from women. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him. Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them. But does the same apply for men? As you probably already know, men are generally more visual. As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and "intuition". Women don't seem to remember this about men. So do men feel sexually attracted to women based just on looks? Or is something else going on? I can tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks. Especially when it comes to longer term relationships. Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...But looks are NOT the most powerful. If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know. But it's not an accident.You have to LEARN how to do this, use how you feel about this man and put it in your body moves and show him....

MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them. Another HORRIBLE idea. Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them. Wrong. Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely. You don't have to act like an "easy" woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth. Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman. For a man's approval, find your way into his heart through sex and being yourself and mean what you say or do with him, because he'll know...
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You“Feel” Too Early With Him Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Listen..Attractive, single, successful men are rare. They get a LOT of attention from women. Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women. And guess what? Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the man that you're just like one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship, get married and have a baby and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives. This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves. Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are. The signals men send have 4 main levels:

1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction

2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally available"

3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons

4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident. That's great news to women...Men can't help it! You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying OnYour Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character People aren't easy to figure out. Especially men. The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people. I've studied peoples behavior, "inner psychology" and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating. From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things. But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for. Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man. They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious. Men are different. Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays of status. VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship. Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at. If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message. Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around. You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled. And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens. But those are the exceptions, not the rule. Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her. And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there. Think, "controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!" So let me be clear... I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever. But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her. It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either... If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless. This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man. So what can you do as a woman? You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more "natural" way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own. This is the only way it really works for people - male or female. Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation. But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince”Him To Like You Or Love You What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious? Right! They try to "convince" the man to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, ever. You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with him? But we all do it. Men are the worst at this by the way. They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts. Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man. She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him. When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches. Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman... And I don't mean just sex. I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you. And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help! If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help This is the biggest mistake of all. This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want. I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help. Hey, I've been there myself, and I'm not proud of who I was for the sake of a man. It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help other women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says "he's not ready". You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone. Because like the old saying goes...There is another man just down the road from where you left the last one, You just need to walk forward and not look back!!!...P.S. I found this on the web and saved it to use someday and today, I think is the day it needs to be said. Pass this on or save it if it helps you to understand things better, because I do believe that everyone of us have someone just waiting to meet us, and who knows maybe the next date we go may be the one. If not remember what you read here...Good Luck!!"

Counseling & A New Beginning

"I need to learn to start doing things for myself and relax a bit. Been doing a lot of soul searching within myself with help from therapy now. I became a single women again in my heart (now the second time with the same man). I told my long time love I wouldn't be the second women in his life, or just a sex pleasure place for him to feel better about with no strings to me. Trying to figure out what happen within me, and why I seem to hold on to the love I have had for this man the last 4-years as to not repeat it again with my next man I before I should start to date, or trust again may take some time least for me.
What I have found out as a women and about myself is, that we tend to over look a lot of things men do or make excuse to or about with relationship with them, so as we don't have to be alone. I know a lot of you may say ...Oh I would never do something like that, because I like who I am more then I like the man I'm dating. Not true I feel then you have not met that one man that can make you do or say things that you look back on and say...Where the hell was my head and what was I thinking, it wasn't loving him for nothing more, what a fool I made of byself to sink so low.. !!
Thinking about it and be honest is what I found I had to do, because I looked back and thought? How did I let myself get to this point in my life? Well it didn't happen over night it was a slow process over time I found I was starting to trust him again and my love for him was still there. Till Last night when he told me in the same breath he missed making love with me and talked about the details of our love making and how he said he never hide the women he was dating now from me, and he was falling in love with her!! Boy was that a slap in the face.Not that he was still in love with me and and wanted to be close to me sexually, but just lets have sex,with no strings!! BUT !! I love someone else but you'll do like a (common whore) Because that was what I miss most about being with you....(Yes this is what I heard him say to me over the phone) Really made me feel like a nobody at that moment I heard him speak.
I told him he had hurt me and I maybe we should not talk ever again after hearing that....GOD!! It hurts so bad to hear those words thru the phone from this man, I thought he loved me as much as I still loved him...I am such a fool to almost agree to have sex with him because I thought he still loved me, but needed some time to trust me again and sort things out with this other women............................ But then came the next phase in this strange thing I did to myself in the name of love!! I thought I could stop it and change time back, to when we were a couple again and no one would know or get hurt! WRONG!!
Don't work like that...Wish it did, but it don't. Then that's when it happens you suddenly figure it out, you were so busy trying to show this man you are in love and want to be a part of their life again. Then by that time it has become to late ...Least it was for me. I was confused because I didn't want to lose him, I thought, when I had already lost him but to stupid to look at myself...
So That day we all wish we never had to have happened, and I and my lover parted ways..I was sad, cried, felt sorry for myself. But I had no one to blame but me, because I allowed it to get to the point it did and I gave control of me away to someone else all in the name of love.
Anyway I had to take a hard look at myself and make me learn to take better control of who I am and what I want in life, I need to keep reminding myself. I am worth loving and any man that I allow into my life will enjoy and be happy I picked him to share my love with, unless I want to be back here where I am coming from today, and I worth a hell of alot more then I gave myself...."

Your Worth

" If you want something truly worth living for, then learn what it means to live for something that is capable of returning the love you give it."

What is Love anyway??

" Well again I have stupid egg on my face!! I broke up with this man back in May that I having been seeing for the last 4-years for a number of reasons, only to stupidly start talk with him again over the last month and thinking that he was feeling the same as me....NOT!! Here's just a few of the things I was dealing with since the first of the year.. I was going thru some heavy Legal stuff with my 16-yr. Old son that was killing any joy or money I had the last 8-months, he dated this girl last summer right after we moved to a new town for about a month till he found out she was not really the age she said she was. Guess he really liked her till he found out. Then it scared him and he broke it off. Which turned into a very ugly thing 8-months later when we got served with court papers saying she was preg. Well we did all the rope jumping thru the system, at this time I found out they had been having sex. Only to find out after he stood up to what he thought he did, he wasn't even the father of this girls baby! But it's to late now because he plead guilty to sleeping with her, even tho they both were under 18. The courts say it is against the Law for anyone under the age to have sex! So they gave him one year at a youth center, which is 6-hours drive from where I live. I am really sad for him because so many of our teenage kids are having sex, but yet he was the one that told the truth and is now being punished..Just hurts me to have him go thru this, but I tell myself and him that this is good for him because he told the truth and hopefully he will learn from what has happen.

Then my other child she's (19-yrs.) moved a guy into live with her that ended bad for her. In some ways but in others not, she is now 10-wks preg. And moved back in to my house as her and this guy broke up because he was cheating on her with her so-called girlfriends (some friends is what I told her) because she was really scared about what was happening to her and the fact that she was now alone.

Then I and my soon to be husband, who I was suppose to finally marry in Aug. Are fighting about all my problems with my kids, which just made everything worse for me to deal with. Well according to him this was the real deal breaker on why we broke up, because I told someone we both new that we were getting married and they told someone who contacted him, and told him what they heard. Well long story short , he didn't tell them the same thing I did about us getting married, said the date was off or something. Not really sure how he put it but it was quite clear to me that he didn't want to marry me I felt and I was hurt and broke it off with him. Yes I know I did it a crappy way, I dumped him while he was on vacation back east on the phone because I was very hurt. Well I tried to move on and get over him, but it hurt really bad and I missed talking with him and being with him.

But I did try for 2-months having no contact with him, but then I thought maybe I could talk to him and it would finally be okay or maybe he would miss me as much as I had missed him. Well he moved on with this women that his family tried to hook him up with while we were still dating!! Yes 4-months before I broke up with him they did this, guess I wasn't worthy of him in their eyes is all I can figure out as I never did nothing to them. I tried to get to know them from what I understood they was not going to happen. Any way he started going out with this women after we broke up and now he tell me tonight that he is falling in Love with her!! Bit yet has been talking to me over the last month on the phone about really personal things between us, and calls me tonight to tell me that him talking to me is causing problem with his new girlfriend and him in his head because he thinks about me and him in bed a lot...

But he Loves her and I need to back off, more or less. Well I had said to him I thought he loved me still like I still loved him and he then told me that he was falling in love with this women who he has been dating for 2-month, not that he still had feeling for me but that he loved her!! Well this ended bad for me I told him I was hurt and I thought it was best maybe we shouldn't talk at all if that was how he really felt and I said fine and he said fine as we both were very angry at this point and we hung-up our phone call ( as we now live in different towns as I moved.)

So I ask you what is love any way and how do you know if it is ever real? And If someone says they Loved you for over 4-yrs, how do they just stop loving you so fast? Maybe he never did love me just told me that to make me happy? Because I don't seem to move on as fast as he did, and can't understand why I can't stop caring for this ASS!! Now I ask myself, what did I ever see in him to want to love him??

And why can't I just find a man that really wants to love a women who is willing to treat him like a king of her world if she feels loved by him. And who wants to spend his life with only me and sharing good or bad times together and still caring for one another.

So to all the people out there who happen to come across my blog or are readers of it, tell me where are all the good guys that want a women to care about them and love them? If you know of a guy who is worth of dating and you approve of him send him my way....Because this women has a whole lot of body and love to give to the right man!!

Because I am tired of being a nobody this man I have cared about, he has moved on it's time I did the same and stop making a fool out of myself....."

Do You Have Bad Breath?

"My daughters friend came over last week and I felt so bad, because she had the most foul odor coming out of her mouth!! In fact the min. She entered the room the smell just seem to float around her, I tried really hard not to say anything but it got harder and harder. Well she kept moving closer to me every time I would get up and move away, so finally I had to say sometime to her and it made myself and her feel really bad!! Well I told her it wasn't her fault but I wasn't trying to be rude but her breath was making me want to throw-up!! So I found this and thought?? I wonder if anyone else has had this happen to them, sides if I had stinky breath I would want someone who cares about me enough to let me know, because this young girl didn't think or smell anything like we did.

So!! ...If you are one of 90 million Americans suffering from chronic bad breath, here are some of the possible causes, as well as remedies to restore your fresh breath and relationships.

Top Five Causes of Bad Breath
1. A dirty mouth. Ninety percent of mouth odors come from mouth itself either from the food you eat or bacteria thats already there. Mouth odor is like any other body odor the result of microbes living in the body giving off byproducts. In the mouth, this means bacteria that normally live in the mouth interact with food particles, blood, tissue, etc., to create volatile (i.e., stinky) sulfur compounds. If you don't clean properly, the bacteria build up, and next thing you know ...That's not toothpaste on your tongue

2. A mouth out of balance. Certain mouth conditions can exacerbate bacterial growth and odor, such as gum disease and dry mouth. Gum disease causes bloody gums, creating more elements for those pesky bacteria to putrefy. But it is a dry mouth that is the more common cause of bad breath. Saliva helps flush out the mouth, keeping bacteria moving so they don't settle down and multiply, while drier mouth is a breeding ground for bacteria. In spring and summer, allergy medications can dry you out; in winter, dry heat tends to be the culprit.
3. Stinky foods. If it stinks going in, chances are it's going to stink coming out. The obvious offenders are onions, garlic, alcohol and tobacco. And foods don't only create a stench in the mouth. Plant oils are absorbed and the byproducts enter your bloodstream so you are actually breathing the odors out via your lungs three to four hours later.

4. Not enough carbs. You look great after four weeks on Atkins, so how come you still can't get a date? High-protein, low-carb diets cause your body to burn stored fats for fuel instead of carbs and can lead to a condition called ketosis. As fat burns, ketones build up in the body, and some are released through breath. Unfortunately ketones don't smell particularly good. And bad breath trumps six-pack abs.
5. Illness. Occasionally, bad breath can be a sign of a more serious illness. The most common systemic causes of bad breath are diabetes or GERD (or gastro esophageal reflux disease). Diabetes can also cause ketosis, and the resulting bad breath is sometimes one of first symptoms that lead to diagnosis. GERD is a backflow of acid from the stomach to the esophagus. Less common but possible are liver or kidney disease, when toxins from these organs are excreted through the lungs, causing bad breath.

Top Five Cures
1. Keep it clean. Gum, breath mints, mouthwash these are all helpful stopgaps, but they won't cure bad breath. The way to get rid of bad breath for most of us is to brush, floss and tongue scrape twice a day. Yes, for fresh breath, the key is tongue scraping. You can brush and floss till the cows come home, but it won't help unless you get way back. A tongue scraper is available at most drugstores. Doctor's swears it helped when they are suffering from bad. For most of us, brushing, flossing and tongue scraping twice a day will control bad breath.
2. Keep it moist. The best way to keep the right saliva balance is to drink plenty of water or liquids. To prevent dry mouth in winter, use a humidifier. If you snore or suffer from postnasal drip, try saline nasal spray to keep nasal passages moist.
3. Watch what you eat. Avoiding the main offenders (onion, garlic, tobacco, coffee, etc.) is the best way to avoid food-related bad breath. Research suggests certain foods can help: Two cups of tea a day can prevent bad breath for some. The polyphenols, a plant chemical in tea, may prevent growth of bacteria responsible for bad breath. You can also chew parsley, which seems to curb offending smells from other foods and bacteria. And cranberries may eliminate offensive smells and make the bacteria less sticky, which makes plaque is less likely to form. Sugarless gums that contain xylotol may kill some bacteria and help reduce plaque.
4. Eat some carbs. Apparently the only way to help the ketosis caused by low-carb diets is to eat some carbs. Recommends fruits, vegetables and whole grains over frosted doughnuts.
5. See your doctor. If tongue scraping and carbo-loading doesn't do the trick, check with your doctor to see if he or she suspects a more serious cause. Diabetes, GERD or other diseases require specific diagnoses and treatments. One more thing good luck to everyone hope this helps you as much as it helped me!"

I'm Back !!

Hello....Just, stopping in to say I finally got my computer hooked back up and plan on spending some more time writing here. But not tonight, it's late and I need to go to bed. But plan on doing some thought writing for awhile to figure out what is going on in my head, Oh! this is just a reminded to myself to start writing again. ...Nite...zzzz

10 Things Women Should Know About Men

1. Don't think you can ever change a man… unless he wears diapers.
2. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.
3. If he asks you if he's your first tell him, "You may be, you look familiar."
4. The children of Israel wandered around the desert for 40 years. Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions.
5. Men are all the same… they just have different faces so you can tell them apart.
6. Go for young men… they never mature anyway.
7. Never let your man's mind wander… it's too little to be let out alone.
8. If they put a man on the moon… they should be able to put them all there.
9. No man ever made love to a woman because the house was clean.
10. Women don't make fools of men… most of men are the “do-it-yourself” type.

Let-Downs On Dating & Job Hunting

Well I haven't started dating yet don't think I am as ready as I thought I was to go out into the world and give my heart to someone else, as it is still hurting. I know its been 2-months but guess what I am saying is, if I am still counting how long I have been hurting from my last break-up then guess I'm not ready to date yet, because I still must be hurting. I want to get on with my life but for some reason can't seem to just do it and move on, I thought if I got out in the work force in a different job things would be better and I would start hanging with other people in return meet men that I would like to date.

Well need-less to say haven't done any of that, thought I had this one job in the bag, in mangment, as they contacted me several times to come back in and talk to them. Then yesterday they offered me a lesser pay position then what I had applied for and it depressed me it must of showed because they turned around not even 30-min. Later called me on my answering Mach. At home and left a message saying they miss-under stood the main office and they didn't have the position they offered me open but would keep my name on file if something else came open. Well needless to say this was like a big slap in the face to me I felt as soon as I said how old I really was and I wasn't sure if I could lift or move stoves and ref. They didn't need me....

Sucks and hurts, well and I cried, worse part is I live in a right to work state and you can lose a job... I found out from (Job-Service) just because you put on the wrong lip-stick if your boss don't like it he don't have to say why he let you go!! It is really scary out there anymore looking for a job and even if you have one you could lose it in a blink of an eye or funding cut, like was what happen to my last job. So just trying to lick my wounds and get back to where I was, so that maybe I will find someone that wants to hire me.

Been thinking about going back to school, but not sure if I can afford to just take that kind of time off to find a better job. But then again if I don't do it my chances anymore it seems the older I get of finding a job will become slim to none. Well I think I am going to take a week or so off from looking and try and figure out what I need to do and if I can do something different....Wish me Luck!!

Learning To Like Me Again

" Hi Just dropping in, to let everyone know I am still doing my blog just taking some time off to do some things I need to do for myself and relax a bit. Been doing a lot of soul searching within myself these last few months since I became a single women again, trying to figure out what happen with my last lover as to not repeat it again with my next..

And what I have found out as a women is that we tend to over look a lot of things men do or make excuse, so as we don't have to be alone. I know a lot of you may say ...Oh I would never do something like that, because I like who I am more then I like the man I'm dating. Not true I feel then you have not met that one man that can make you do or say things that you look back on and say...Where the hell was my head and what was I thinking ????

Think about it and be honest is what I found I had to do, because I looked back and thought? How did I let myself get to this point in my life? Well it didn't happen over night it was a slow process over time that happen so slow that I didn't even see myself changing till I was in over my head and didn't like who I had become...But then came the next phase in this strange thing I did to myself in the name of love!! I thought I could stop it and change back and no one would know or get hurt! WRONG!!

Don't work like that...Wish it did, but it don't. Because then all the fighting starts because your mate likes usually who you've become even if you don't! Then that's when it happens you suddenly figure it out, you were so busy trying to show the man you are with that you love then and want to be a part of their life you become them, over-night it seems like and you didn't even see it till you step back! Then by that time it has become to late ...Least it was for me, the stakes just kept getting higher the move I tried to change back to who I was the move we fought and he wanted me to change more to the things he liked and wanted, and I was confused because I didn't want to lose him but I didn't want to lose who I was also.

So That day we all wish we never had to have happened, and I and my lover parted ways..I was sad, cried licked my wounds and felt sorry for myself. But I had no one to blame but me, because I allowed it to get to the point it did and I gave control of me away to someone else all in the name of love. Which is not really love if you think about it, because I should of and have now learned you need to love yourself first and never let go of it. Then only with this part of your life in control then you will be able to let someone else in to love them too!!

Any way I have done a lot of looking at myself and learning to take better control of who I am and what I want in life, and I need to keep reminding myself I come before anyone else does always, and never ever ! Feel I should put my feelings on the back burner, for anyone or any man, unless I am wanting to be where I was a few months ago again.

I'm ready now I think to start looking to date again, but being very careful and picky about who I go out with because I need to take care of me first. And let those I date know, that I come before we always if they choose to date me!!

I Wasn't Cheating I Was Sleep -Walking

sleepdisorder;"Australia - A woman seduced and had sex with strangers while she slept and later had no recollection of her infidelities due to a sleeping disorder. The middle-aged woman had no idea that she was sneaking from her house at night in search of sex with random strangers until her partner awoke, discovered she was missing from the bedroom, and found her having sex with another man. Her partner was already aware that she was a sleep walker and also had been confounded by condoms he found strewn around the house. "It is very complex, elaborated motor behavior during sleep, people are often stunned and overwhelmed when they're told what they've been doing."The partners and doctors of people suffering from the disorder often do not believe the acts were committed while they slept,"It's very stressful both for them, for their partner or for their relationship," Scientific Sleep Doctor's say. "It also promotes an intense sense of embarrassment on their part, their partner's behalf and this inhibits people coming forward to seek potentially helpful professional intervention.I guess I don't really buy this one!! But if anyone can prove me wrong and make me believe it..I'm game! But then again ? Sometimes I wish I could just sleep walk in to some sexy guy's bed and have some fun and then leave and pretend I don't remember crawling in his bed if I get caught. But remember what I did while I was there in my mind, as long as it was some good Loving...lol...( I know Shame on me!!...Can't help myself just a nasty women)"

Women Want A Better Sex-Life

Testosterone Patch;" (TTP) therapy is well tolerated and significantly increases sexual activity and desire while decreasing personal distress in women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder, according to the results. HSDD is a medical condition for women that is specifically defined as decreased desire associated with personal distress. Results at 24 weeks showed that TTP therapy significantly increased the frequency of "totally satisfying" sexual episodes compared with placebo. TTP therapy was well tolerated. "The only adverse events we saw that were slightly more likely in testosterone-treated women were slight increases in acne and facial hair," Dr. Shifren noted, adding, "These were very mild.
"We saw statistically significant improvement in our primary end point for the study, which was the amount of totally satisfying sexual activity at 24 weeks, in testosterone-treated women as compared to placebo-treated women," said Dr. Shifren. "It's really a very exciting study; it's truly the first time that transdermal testosterone has been shown to significantly increase sexual function in women in a large controlled trial," Dr. Shifren pointed out. "The interesting thing...Was that everything became significant early; the arousal, the return of desire, the number of satisfactory sexual encounters that they had, and the decrease in distress could all be seen at four weeks, and this really amazed me, an increase in self-image as well," Dr. Nachtigall said. Noted the clinical advantages of being able to tell patients to expect improvements in four weeks that will peak soon after and then remain stable over a six-month period. "This is a whole change in lifestyle," she pointed out. "I think four weeks is excellent, anticipates U.S. Food and Drug Administration approval of TTP therapy for women with HSDD. "Once it's approved, it will be a very useful, "There's a lot more distress over decreased libido than we knew.Okay Ladies it's time for us to have some fun too!! So we all need to go see our doctors and get something to make what men do fun for us too...Each and everything and then some. Okay even if your one of those few ladies who says you don't have a problem in this dept., well maybe this will help a girlfriend you know....Its worth a try...Think I'll check into it as I just entered the dating field again....LOL"

Plastic Surgery In Fashion For Pets

MSNBC:" Well, get ready for a fresh dose of reality: those going under the knife to be nipped and tucked are not people but pets. “Pets are no longer considered property, but family members," says Dr. Alan Schulman, a board-certified orthopedic veterinary surgeon who performs plastic surgery and also sees general practice cases at the Animal Medical Center of Southern California in Los Angeles. "With the evolution of this emotional bond, people with a discretionary income are taking advantage of technology and veterinary expertise to give their animals medically indicated reconstructive surgery resulting in a better quality of life.

Schulman sees many pets belonging to celebrities and says he gets his fair share of requests to perform unnecessary cosmetic procedures, reconstructive procedures that amount to an eyelift, full facelift, rhinoplasty or abdominoplasty. The costs are about $1,000 per procedure and the pet is usually hospitalized overnight in order to be properly monitored after anesthesia. The most common are skin-fold problems, particularly around the eyes, lips, tail and vaginal area, nose jobs and chin lifts. Neuticles(animal-balls) are testicular implants designed to give neutered pets a more "masculine," unneutered look.

To date, about 148,000 implants have been fitted worldwide. The recipients are mainly dogs, but Miller now has three implants available that range in softness and size to fit cats as well as horses and bulls. Prices range from $79 to $400 a pair. “The implants are FDA approved and are inserted at the time of neutering. It’s like changing a light bulb; it takes less than three minutes," says Miller. Veterinarians usually charge around $60 in addition to the neutering operation....Now this one is just plain dumb to me, come-on I had our male dog fixed many years ago when he was just 6-months old. I don't think he even knows that he ever had them, and as for hmasculinitytiy I don't feel it has ever effected him in this area he isn't afraid to thump any dog that wants to take him on, if any thing I wish I could mellow this one he's 12-years old. And as for giving my dog a face lift...I've got better things to do with my money!!"

Lutheran Minister claims There's No God Or After-life

sfgate;" The Danish government upheld the clerical suspension of a Lutheran minister who proclaimed last year that there was no God or afterlife, and he now could be fired or fined for declaring his beliefs in the pulpit. The government suspended the Rev. Thorkild Grosboell, pastor his unconventional beliefs at his church. Grosboell "had damaged the state (Evangelical Lutheran) Church ... And had not shown loyalty to the state Church." Grosboell has been under strict supervision since he first was suspended after a interview in which he said "there is no heavenly God, there is no eternal life, there is no resurrection." But in a sermon, Grosboell said that "God had abdicated in favor of his son, hence in our favor. Therefore there is no longer a heavenly guarantee or an interfering might, there is only the godly kingdom (on earth) that is achieved by us and between us. So if it fails, there is nothing...I don't know about others but when you have a man of the cloth who don't believe in what he teaches then, it really makes you wonder what's true and what's not?"

How Long Will I Live?

World News:" If you don't want to know when you'll die, DON'T read this story. The lifeline on the palm of your hand really does tell how long you'll live, says a new government study. All you have to do is measure it with a ruler and then perform simple arithmetic that will reveal the precise age at which you will die with a margin of error so small that researchers call it statistically insignificant, says Dr. Franklin Howell, National Institutes of Health, in Bethesda, Md. What we have found is that the lifeline is, in fact, an extraordinarily precise measuring stick that accurately predicts the number of years a person will live. It's amazingly accurate. We never expected it. Howell and his team measured the lifelines and then tracked the lives of 200 men and women ages 67 to 92 in the study that began in 1992 and didn't end until last June. During that period, 176 of the participants died from a variety of illnesses and accidents, including cancer, heart disease, strokes, and, in two cases, attacks by a burglar and, oddly enough, a rabid squirrel. Computer modeling indicated a distinct relationship between the length of their lifeline and their age at death that, Howell says, proved to be accurate with a margin of error of just one year. But you don't need a computer to figure out how long you're going to live. According to Howell, any adult armed with paper and pencil can do the math and find out the age at which he or she will die. Here's how: Measure the lifeline on your dominant hand left if you're left-handed, right if you're right-handed and then convert its length to eighths of inches. For example, if your line is 4 inches long, its length in eighths of inches will be 4 x 8 = 32. If your line is 43/8 inches, its length in eighths of inches will be 4 x 8 = 32 + 3 = 35. This is your "Lifeline Number." Tip: Because your lifeline is curved, for pinpoint accuracy, lay a string over it, and then stretch the string out on a table and measure it with a ruler. Multiply your Lifeline Number by 2. If your Lifeline Number is 32, the math looks like this: 32 x 2 = 64. The product 64 is your "Lifeline Root Number." If you are a woman, add 14 to your Lifeline Root Number. If you are a man, add 10 to your Lifeline Root Number. If your Lifeline Root Number is 64, the math looks like this: 64 + 14 = 78 for a woman; 64 + 10 = 74 for a man. Give or take one year, this is the age at which you will die barring a freak accident. Once you know how long you're going to live, you can plan accordingly, says Howell....Well I did this and it says I will live to be at least 80-years old before I die, so that means I have only 30 -years left to do all the things I want to do. Like find that perfect man for me in every dept.(lol) And make my kids learn how to give me money instead of me always handing out the $$ to them!!"